(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend”

Is there ever a reason why you would encourage your child to be friendly with your spouse’s new “significant other?” Maybe. Take this True or False Quiz to see if there ever is for you: 1.         My ex-husband is such a wimp that his new wife will be the one controlling their purse strings. TrueContinue reading “(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend””

When the Divorce Turned Ugly

 The minute she found out he has a girlfriend.  Here is a phone call I had this week with a new client.  We’ll call him Burt. Burt:  I need a new lawyer. The one I have been using ruined my divorce. Me: That’s terrible!  What happened? Burt: I have no idea.  My wife threw meContinue reading “When the Divorce Turned Ugly”

How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table

My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom.  Bill still lives in the same town and sees the boys as often as his work & visitation schedules will allow. He misses them a lot.  Unlike some of the families IContinue reading “How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table”

Grateful for Grandparents

I had the privilege this week of meeting a pair of grandparents who helped give deeper meaning to my Thanksgiving.  I’ll call them Poppy and Nana.  Poppy and Nana have a son who is divorced from his first wife and re-married. The son has one son from the first marriage and two kids from theContinue reading “Grateful for Grandparents”

Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Let’s face it, no one knows you better than your former spouse.  There’s one person in the world who knows exactly how late (or early) you like to get out of bed in the morning.  There are museum strollers vs. mountain climbers; beach bums vs. ski bums; breakfast in bed vs. sunrise in the skyContinue reading “Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?”

Is Divorce James Marsden’s Best Acting Role?

From People Magazine: “One day after news broke that James Marsden‘s wife, Lisa Linde, had filed for divorce, the pair stepped out in Studio City, Calif., with their son Jack, 10, looking like the “great friends” their rep told PEOPLE that the former spouses intend to be.” James Marsden is known for his movie &Continue reading “Is Divorce James Marsden’s Best Acting Role?”

Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?

No – you can’t read the Judge’s mind; but I can. Okay. Not really.  But, there are clues which are surprisingly reliable. Picture this. You and your ex-wife have been fighting about custody, visitation, and money.  You are barely making ends meet, and she keeps bringing you to court (making you pay your lawyer moreContinue reading “Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?”

My Favorite Types of Divorces

My favorite types of divorces: First, the childless divorce, second, the adult child divorce (with an asterisk). The first category, the childless divorce, is the one I recommend most strongly.  If you are married and plan to divorce please do not have children.  If you are unhappily married please do not have children.  If youContinue reading “My Favorite Types of Divorces”

Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband

47 year old Melissa Gilbert filed for divorce this week from her second husband, Bruce Boxleitner, after 16 years of marriage.  The couple has a 15 year old son together, Michael (named for Gilbert’s former “Little House on the Prairie” Co-Star, Michael Landon).    Gilbert’s filing referenced the fact that the couple has been separated sinceContinue reading “Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband”

What do these things have in common:  Q’Viva – The Chosen, The Miami Dolphins, Kohl’s newest clothing line, Emme Maribel Muñiz, and Maximilian “Max” David Muñiz? They are all joint projects of Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony.  (Okay, the Dolphins have a lot of owners, including J Lo and Anthony.) On July 16 the couple made a jointContinue reading