There is a common misconception that the only people who can have mediated divorces are people with a “clean record.” Meaning, no fighting, no substance abuse, no cheating, and more. If you think about it, this doesn’t really make any sense. If the only people who chose amicable divorces were people with spotless relationships, thenContinue reading “If infidelity ruins a marriage, it does not have to ruin a family.”
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Holidays and Starting the New Year
As we wrap up the holidays, are you wandering from room to room wondering how you have survived so long with your spouse? Do you catch yourself forcing a smile for so long that your jaw starts to clench? Sometimes we spend the holidays with family and friends, thinking we are shielding them from ourContinue reading “Holidays and Starting the New Year”
Hunker Down – Here Come the Holidays!
As we all know, the end of the year brings with it all of the joys and excitement of the holiday season. Unless you are going through a divorce. Then it brings all of the “joys” and “excitement” of the holiday season. Here is an excerpt from an email I just sent a client ofContinue reading “Hunker Down – Here Come the Holidays!”
Being the Best You in a Divorce
I met a policeman last week. He has been divorced 8 years and his youngest child just turned 18 after graduating high school. His child support orders are through, over! He spent a little time discussing the divorce process with me. He and his wife each had their own lawyers, and they each spent quiteContinue reading “Being the Best You in a Divorce”
Getting to the Negotiation Table
Two lawyers stood before a judge and argued whether financial affidavits should be exchanged by the 15th or the 30th of October. They stood in a crowded courtroom and with straight faces told the judge that they were too far apart to decide which date the documents should be complete. Neither of them made aContinue reading “Getting to the Negotiation Table”
Weekly Glass of Wine
Why would anyone in his right mind babysit for his own kid on his free weekend while their mom, who collects alimony and child support, goes out on a date? There are, it turns out, several reasons. When my friend Ned was newly divorced his ex-wife and he decided to stay on friendly terms. ThisContinue reading “Weekly Glass of Wine”
A COVID Silver Lining in the Judicial System
One weakness that covid exposed in many state judicial systems was the back log of family law cases which could not be addressed while courthouses were being shut down. Each state handled matters in their own way, but many adapted a new set of protocols based upon the multi-state triage and pathways model. I wasContinue reading “A COVID Silver Lining in the Judicial System”
Like the NFL, Divorce is a Team Sport
BEGIN NOW TO THINK OF DIVORCE AS A TEAM SPORT: Divorce usually begins with a break down in what was supposed to be the ultimate team- the family. So, it is easy to feel completely alone and outnumbered as we start the divorce process. It feels as if there is no one to talk to, orContinue reading “Like the NFL, Divorce is a Team Sport”
Various Meanings of Collaborative Divorce
The first time I became aware of the idea of collaborative divorce was when I was representing a man whose wife’s attorney said he was a collaborative attorney. He gave me a thumbnail sketch of what that term meant to him, and I thought it sounded smart. We could work together as a team andContinue reading “Various Meanings of Collaborative Divorce”
What is the Goal of a Mediated Divorce?
In a mediated divorce we are trying to make sure that everyone gets a fair share of all available resources, including the assets and debts, the income, and time with the children. But in a litigated divorce there’s an extra item to distribute: Blame. Unlike everything else on the list, there is usually more than enoughContinue reading “What is the Goal of a Mediated Divorce?”
Love Your Divorce 