Trust Issues and Moving Forward

When a love affair goes bad a jilted party often wants to reduce his or her feelings to writing as a way of processing the experience.  Some people then burn these letters, or file them away.  Of course, there are those who drop them in the mail or hit “send” once they are written.  Occasionally,Continue reading “Trust Issues and Moving Forward”

How All the Pieces Fit

What is a successful divorce?  In my opinion, it has nothing to do with accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments.  It has everything to do with an ability to carry forward the best parts of the person you married while being able to walk away from the parts that don’t work for you.  WhenContinue reading “How All the Pieces Fit”

Crazy is a relative term, so is normal

Question 1:  When is it, in the divorce process, that one parent finally gets to teach the other parent the right way of parenting? Question 2:  When in the divorce process does a judge finally tell one parent that he or she must act more like the other parent? Question 3:  How many months intoContinue reading “Crazy is a relative term, so is normal”

What is the difference between a Guardian Ad Litem (“G-A-L”) and an Attorney For the Minor Children?

In cases involving the custody of minor children there are times when either one of the parties or a judge will suggest that the children need someone to represent their interests.  Sometimes, parents fail to recognize their own inherent conflict of interest with their children.  Frequently, this conflict of interest can result in disaster forContinue reading “What is the difference between a Guardian Ad Litem (“G-A-L”) and an Attorney For the Minor Children?”

What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?

Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone).  For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody.  Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”

My Favorite Types of Divorces

My favorite types of divorces: First, the childless divorce, second, the adult child divorce (with an asterisk). The first category, the childless divorce, is the one I recommend most strongly.  If you are married and plan to divorce please do not have children.  If you are unhappily married please do not have children.  If youContinue reading “My Favorite Types of Divorces”

What do kids want to know about divorce?

Children want to know a few things:  whose fault is it, what can I do to make this stop, when will we be a family again. Parents have an obligation to have their children understand these responses:  no matter whose fault it is, it is never, never the child’s fault and there is nothing theContinue reading “What do kids want to know about divorce?”

5 Ground Rules to Love Your Divorce

Below are my 5 ground rules to help you (or someone you love) Love Your Divorce: 1.         DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2.         All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3.         It does not matter whose fault it is.        4.         It is never too late. 5.         If someone’s life is in danger, get out now.  Figure theContinue reading “5 Ground Rules to Love Your Divorce”