Even though this post was originally made 2 years ago, for the holidays in 2011, what we love still rings true today. My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom. Bill still lives in the same town and sees theContinue reading “Home for the Holidays”
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Crazy is a relative term, so is normal
Question 1: When is it, in the divorce process, that one parent finally gets to teach the other parent the right way of parenting? Question 2: When in the divorce process does a judge finally tell one parent that he or she must act more like the other parent? Question 3: How many months intoContinue reading “Crazy is a relative term, so is normal”
The Importance of the Decision to Divorce
“Thanks Mom & Dad – You Just Ruined My Life.” Would you rather: hear that sentence and know it is false? Or never hear that sentence, yet know it is true? That is a choice parents face all the time. Whether it comes to allowing kids to attend certain parties or concerts, paying more forContinue reading “The Importance of the Decision to Divorce”
Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…
What is the value of keeping your in-laws in a divorce? I recently heard a woman make an argument that she should be entitled to increased alimony because she lives closer to her in-laws than to her own parents. Many states use a rubric of factors to determine alimony. Factors may include length of theContinue reading “Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…”
What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?
Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone). For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody. Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”
When Every Dollar Was a Hand Grenade
I finalized a matter this month between two of the most civilized and gentle people I have ever divorced. As we went through the final papers and documents that needed to be reviewed and signed, they were patient and kind with each other. The wife’s older brother drove 6 hours to be at the courtContinue reading “When Every Dollar Was a Hand Grenade”
My Favorite Types of Divorces
My favorite types of divorces: First, the childless divorce, second, the adult child divorce (with an asterisk). The first category, the childless divorce, is the one I recommend most strongly. If you are married and plan to divorce please do not have children. If you are unhappily married please do not have children. If youContinue reading “My Favorite Types of Divorces”
What do kids want to know about divorce?
Children want to know a few things: whose fault is it, what can I do to make this stop, when will we be a family again. Parents have an obligation to have their children understand these responses: no matter whose fault it is, it is never, never the child’s fault and there is nothing theContinue reading “What do kids want to know about divorce?”
Love Your Divorce 