I had a surprising phone call today with an old friend. He has been in the divorce process for almost a year, and could not see a way to conclude the process and get on with his life. The reason, sadly, is because his wife won’t let him. After all of these years of lettingContinue reading “Whose divorce is this, anyway?”
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Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!
I rarely do this, but – you think your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is a jerk? Getta’ loada’ THIS guy! Mr. and Mrs. “Michaels” were married while Mr. Michaels was finishing his education at a prominent New York law school. Mrs. Michaels worked two jobs so they could afford a decent place to live while herContinue reading “Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!”
Don’t Let Divorce Define You
Yesterday, once again, I left the courthouse beaming with pride at what my clients have accomplished. We sat in the courtroom most of the morning waiting until the judge could take our uncontested divorce action. We waited through status conferences in which people fought over what date they would exchange financial information. We sat throughContinue reading “Don’t Let Divorce Define You”
Are you Ready or Hesitant?
Marriage affords people certain benefits. There are compromises and pay-offs that married people balance and weigh all of the time. It might actually be impossible to spend decades living with another fully-functioning adult and never get on each others nerves. We are talking about marriage between human beings, after all. Divorce happens when those compromisesContinue reading “Are you Ready or Hesitant?”
GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD
The eastern seaboard of the United States has just come through a major storm and its after-effects. Hundreds of thousands of people are still without electricity and more are dealing with the results and damages. More than a hundred people are reported dead. Those of us who “only” lost heat, or electricity, or cell serviceContinue reading “GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD”
What is the goal of a mediated divorce?
In a mediated divorce we are trying to make sure that everyone gets a fair share of all available resources, including the assets and debts, the income, and time with the children. But in a litigated divorce there’s an extra item to distribute: Blame. Unlike everything else on the list, there is usually moreContinue reading “What is the goal of a mediated divorce?”
Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?
When your lawyer says, “Don’t take his calls for a while; let things cool off, first.” If the next thing you do is answer an angry phone call from your divorcing husband you are likely to find yourself in the middle of an expensive issue that may not have even existed until you answered theContinue reading “Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?”
Great Divorces begin with Great Break-ups
The best break-up I ever heard about was a couple I knew in law school. “Ken” and “Sarah” had been dating for 5 years. They had moved out West and bought a house together after college graduation. Both far from their families, they were each other’s best friends and surrogate family. In time, they beganContinue reading “Great Divorces begin with Great Break-ups”
How much should your divorce cost you?
Getting along during the divorce process is a key factor to the rest of your life. By deciding not to fight during this critical juncture you can make long-term decisions based not on factors such as revenge, annoyance, hostility, or bankruptcy. Instead, amicable dissolutions afford participants the opportunity to envision a productive and happy futureContinue reading “How much should your divorce cost you?”
The High Costs of Non-Compliance
Recently, I was sitting in the conference room at my office, meeting with a husband and a wife who were signing their final agreement, we’ll call them Mr. and Mrs. Phillips. We were reviewing terms, crossing Ts and dotting Is, and getting ready to go before the Judge for our hearing. The hearing will beContinue reading “The High Costs of Non-Compliance”
Love Your Divorce 