How All the Pieces Fit

What is a successful divorce?  In my opinion, it has nothing to do with accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments.  It has everything to do with an ability to carry forward the best parts of the person you married while being able to walk away from the parts that don’t work for you.  WhenContinue reading “How All the Pieces Fit”

Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?

When your lawyer says, “Don’t take his calls for a while; let things cool off, first.”  If the next thing you do is answer an angry phone call from your divorcing husband you are likely to find yourself in the middle of an expensive issue that may not have even existed until you answered theContinue reading “Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?”

What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?

Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone).  For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody.  Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”

Custody, Visitation, Residency, and Child Support

I spoke with a young man today; we’ll call him “Herman.”  Herman is happily married with two pre-school age children from this marriage.  He also has a 14 year old son from a prior relationship.  We’ll call the son “Anthony,” and his mother “Tina.” Tina and Herman were never married; I’m not even sure theyContinue reading “Custody, Visitation, Residency, and Child Support”

When the Divorce Turned Ugly

 The minute she found out he has a girlfriend.  Here is a phone call I had this week with a new client.  We’ll call him Burt. Burt:  I need a new lawyer. The one I have been using ruined my divorce. Me: That’s terrible!  What happened? Burt: I have no idea.  My wife threw meContinue reading “When the Divorce Turned Ugly”

Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Let’s face it, no one knows you better than your former spouse.  There’s one person in the world who knows exactly how late (or early) you like to get out of bed in the morning.  There are museum strollers vs. mountain climbers; beach bums vs. ski bums; breakfast in bed vs. sunrise in the skyContinue reading “Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?”

Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?

No – you can’t read the Judge’s mind; but I can. Okay. Not really.  But, there are clues which are surprisingly reliable. Picture this. You and your ex-wife have been fighting about custody, visitation, and money.  You are barely making ends meet, and she keeps bringing you to court (making you pay your lawyer moreContinue reading “Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?”

Will marriage matter for Owen Wilson’s baby?

Owen Wilson’s 5 month old son Robert and Robert’s mother Jade Duell are relocating to New York while Wilson remains in California, according to reports on Hollybaby.com, PerezHilton.com and popeater.com. The parents have apparently known each other for a little more than a year, having met on an airplane. Wilson announced that he was going to be aContinue reading “Will marriage matter for Owen Wilson’s baby?”

When is it Alimony?

Alimony:  I interviewed a woman this week for a divorce. They have two small children. Her husband has been unemployed for 4 months and has begun drinking more (amount) and more (frequently).  She works full time to support the 4 of them.  They rent their home. She has a bachelor’s degree and does not makeContinue reading “When is it Alimony?”

Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?

Kelsey Grammer and Camille Grammer have been divorced for more than 3 months.  Kelsey is remarried, Camille is reportedly filming new episodes on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills while considering another spot on CNN.  Their two minor children together, ages 6 and 9, have been settled into their new lives.  Each child reportedly has two full-time nannies.Continue reading “Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?”