Necessary Preparations

When I first met “Rayna” she was scared to ask her husband for a divorce. He pays all the bills, he knows how to fix everything in the house. He doesn’t like surprises. They had discussed divorce from time to time over the years, and he had made it clear that he was worried forContinue reading “Necessary Preparations”

A Husband Upside-down? Maybe backwards?

“When you meet my husband, you won’t believe the things I have told you about him.”  At my law firm, we hear this so frequently from women in emotionally abusive relationships.  They tell us that their husbands belittle, demean, threaten, and frighten them, and yet, to the outside world, the men are charming, funny, considerateContinue reading “A Husband Upside-down? Maybe backwards?”

Thankfully, Plan C

Her beautiful blue eyes fill up slowly, from the bottom to the top. Then the tears spill over and she starts listing for me all of the clues she has ignored for the past several months.  My heart just breaks for her as she unspools, in the clarity of hindsight, all of the unbidden questionsContinue reading “Thankfully, Plan C”

A Successful Marriage?

I met this great couple yesterday.   I guess I really should not call them a couple since the reason they were in my office was to sign their divorce agreement.  Plus, they’ve been separated for a few months now. Nonetheless, they were great together. She is beautiful, serious, hard-working, and stable. He is hilarious, carefree,Continue reading “A Successful Marriage?”

Scared into Staying

I sat across the deposition table from an older attorney.  A nice man, I grew up with his son and knew the family.  I had always liked him, but at this particular moment I felt an urge to slap his face as he winked at me and said, “These two lovebirds will be back togetherContinue reading “Scared into Staying”

A Good Week at the Plate, I Think?

I am batting a thousand during lunchtime this week.  Not sure at what, though? Monday:  Met a male colleague of mine for lunch.  During the talk of kids and work, there seemed to be an unspoken “…and…” before and after each of his sentences.  Finally, I was out of ability to politely ignore the obvious.Continue reading “A Good Week at the Plate, I Think?”