Enforcement means forcing someone to do something they do not want to do. Just because a judge rules that your ex-wife has to treat you with respect in front of the kids, doesn’t mean she is going to do it. A judge who orders alimony payments does not show up at the husband’s house andContinue reading “It’s Called EnFORCEment for a Reason”
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Don’t Take Your Ex’s Word for Everything
I received a call this week from “Tony,” a fictitious name for a man I represented in 1998, when he and his first wife had a 3 year old son together. He has been a generous and involved father to his child from that marriage for the entire 15 years since his divorce. He paidContinue reading “Don’t Take Your Ex’s Word for Everything”
Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!
I rarely do this, but – you think your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is a jerk? Getta’ loada’ THIS guy! Mr. and Mrs. “Michaels” were married while Mr. Michaels was finishing his education at a prominent New York law school. Mrs. Michaels worked two jobs so they could afford a decent place to live while herContinue reading “Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!”
Successful Divorces
I have written before what a successful divorce is not. It is not accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments. I am always trying to pinpoint what does define a successful divorce, so I can help my clients keep that as the goal in their minds. It begins with taking an inventory of the bestContinue reading “Successful Divorces”
Bling in Your Face..
What brings divorced people back to a lawyer’s office, or the courthouse? Usually, a “significant change in circumstances,” or at least the perception of a change in circumstances. Most states have a rule that child support (and sometimes alimony) can be changed after the divorce is final, but only if one spouse’s circumstances change inContinue reading “Bling in Your Face..”
Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…
What is the value of keeping your in-laws in a divorce? I recently heard a woman make an argument that she should be entitled to increased alimony because she lives closer to her in-laws than to her own parents. Many states use a rubric of factors to determine alimony. Factors may include length of theContinue reading “Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…”
The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)
Attorney Jones and her client Mr. Bob walk into the conference room at Attorney Jones’ Connecticut law office. They are expecting to take Mrs. Bob’s deposition today; and they have hired a court stenographer to record the proceedings. Mrs. Bob is sitting there, alone, with a manila folder of papers on the table in frontContinue reading “The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)”
(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend”
Is there ever a reason why you would encourage your child to be friendly with your spouse’s new “significant other?” Maybe. Take this True or False Quiz to see if there ever is for you: 1. My ex-husband is such a wimp that his new wife will be the one controlling their purse strings. TrueContinue reading “(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend””
When the Divorce Turned Ugly
The minute she found out he has a girlfriend. Here is a phone call I had this week with a new client. We’ll call him Burt. Burt: I need a new lawyer. The one I have been using ruined my divorce. Me: That’s terrible! What happened? Burt: I have no idea. My wife threw meContinue reading “When the Divorce Turned Ugly”
How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table
My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom. Bill still lives in the same town and sees the boys as often as his work & visitation schedules will allow. He misses them a lot. Unlike some of the families IContinue reading “How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table”
Love Your Divorce 