While we look around at all of the people rushing to spend this holiday with loved ones, those families who are in transition – going through divorces or separations right now, or living with the decisions to do or not to do either of those things – might feel a little less grateful for theirContinue reading “10 Reasons to be Grateful you are Divorced this Holiday Season”
Category Archives: Post Divorce
Divorce is Pretty Popular?
Does this happen to you, too? People talk to me about their divorces all the time. I don’t just mean my clients. I mean the lady next to me waiting for our dry cleaning, my eye doctor, a mom whose son plays baseball with my son, the cop directing traffic at the corner, the womanContinue reading “Divorce is Pretty Popular?”
Divorce Equals Division
Did you ever notice how the words “Divorce” and “divide” both start with the same three letters, the same root? Divorce can be seen as a time to “divvy-up” assets, debts, photo albums, relatives, and even friends. You can almost picture a black jack dealer with a green eye-shade laying the “alternate weekends” card inContinue reading “Divorce Equals Division”
Bad Start Turns Happy Ending
A Former Client called today. Her ex-husband, from whom I divorced her about 10 years ago, passed away. Frankly, he lived a lot longer than I would have guessed. While we were going through the divorce process, I never expected him to make it to the next meeting or court date. The poorContinue reading “Bad Start Turns Happy Ending”
Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…
What is the value of keeping your in-laws in a divorce? I recently heard a woman make an argument that she should be entitled to increased alimony because she lives closer to her in-laws than to her own parents. Many states use a rubric of factors to determine alimony. Factors may include length of theContinue reading “Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…”
GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD
The eastern seaboard of the United States has just come through a major storm and its after-effects. Hundreds of thousands of people are still without electricity and more are dealing with the results and damages. More than a hundred people are reported dead. Those of us who “only” lost heat, or electricity, or cell serviceContinue reading “GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD”
What is the goal of a mediated divorce?
In a mediated divorce we are trying to make sure that everyone gets a fair share of all available resources, including the assets and debts, the income, and time with the children. But in a litigated divorce there’s an extra item to distribute: Blame. Unlike everything else on the list, there is usually moreContinue reading “What is the goal of a mediated divorce?”
Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?
When your lawyer says, “Don’t take his calls for a while; let things cool off, first.” If the next thing you do is answer an angry phone call from your divorcing husband you are likely to find yourself in the middle of an expensive issue that may not have even existed until you answered theContinue reading “Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?”
What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?
Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone). For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody. Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”
How Co-Parenting Could Work for Heidi Klum’s Family, and yours..
Heidi Klum and her Husband Seal Henry Samuel are announcing their intention to divorce, by publishing this statement: “While we have enjoyed seven very loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much soul-searching we have decided to separate. We have had the deepest respect for one another throughout our relationship and continue to love eachContinue reading “How Co-Parenting Could Work for Heidi Klum’s Family, and yours..”