Why, When and How to use your Finanical Affidavit. The most important tool in your divorce is frequently the most over-looked, and avoided. Even its name is off-putting; but it is the key to understanding all of the other issues which arise. It is called (drumroll, please), “The Financial Affidavit” (yawn). Frankly, most people shouldContinue reading “Simple Tools: The Financial Affidavit”
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Don’t Take Your Ex’s Word for Everything
I received a call this week from “Tony,” a fictitious name for a man I represented in 1998, when he and his first wife had a 3 year old son together. He has been a generous and involved father to his child from that marriage for the entire 15 years since his divorce. He paidContinue reading “Don’t Take Your Ex’s Word for Everything”
Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!
I rarely do this, but – you think your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is a jerk? Getta’ loada’ THIS guy! Mr. and Mrs. “Michaels” were married while Mr. Michaels was finishing his education at a prominent New York law school. Mrs. Michaels worked two jobs so they could afford a decent place to live while herContinue reading “Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!”
Are you Ready or Hesitant?
Marriage affords people certain benefits. There are compromises and pay-offs that married people balance and weigh all of the time. It might actually be impossible to spend decades living with another fully-functioning adult and never get on each others nerves. We are talking about marriage between human beings, after all. Divorce happens when those compromisesContinue reading “Are you Ready or Hesitant?”
What is the goal of a mediated divorce?
In a mediated divorce we are trying to make sure that everyone gets a fair share of all available resources, including the assets and debts, the income, and time with the children. But in a litigated divorce there’s an extra item to distribute: Blame. Unlike everything else on the list, there is usually moreContinue reading “What is the goal of a mediated divorce?”
How much should your divorce cost you?
Getting along during the divorce process is a key factor to the rest of your life. By deciding not to fight during this critical juncture you can make long-term decisions based not on factors such as revenge, annoyance, hostility, or bankruptcy. Instead, amicable dissolutions afford participants the opportunity to envision a productive and happy futureContinue reading “How much should your divorce cost you?”
The Advantages of a Long-Distance Divorce
My client just left on a cruise. Her kids are grown; her divorce is underway; and she does not want to sit here every day from now until the divorce date fighting over the nitty-gritty with her husband. Nor should she. She has empowered her financial advisor (who is a certified divorce mediator) to bargainContinue reading “The Advantages of a Long-Distance Divorce”
Why Am I Paying His Rent?
I met with a wife tonight who is ready for a divorce. They have exhausted the options for making the marriage work, but she cannot get him off the couch – literally – and she is ready to move on with her life. She has asked him to move out, and he does not knowContinue reading “Why Am I Paying His Rent?”
Beginning Your New Life
Nobody gets married with the intention of getting divorced. Quite the opposite, “from this day forward, ‘til death parts us.” And, as we know, it might have been simpler if death had parted certain couples before the divorce process. Nonetheless once it is over, the sooner it is truly over the better. Because Divorce Sucks, andContinue reading “Beginning Your New Life”
My Favorite Types of Divorces
My favorite types of divorces: First, the childless divorce, second, the adult child divorce (with an asterisk). The first category, the childless divorce, is the one I recommend most strongly. If you are married and plan to divorce please do not have children. If you are unhappily married please do not have children. If youContinue reading “My Favorite Types of Divorces”