Hunker Down – Here Come the Holidays!

As we all know, the end of the year brings with it all of the joys and excitement of the holiday season.  Unless you are going through a divorce.  Then it brings all of the “joys” and “excitement” of the holiday season. Here is an excerpt from an email I just sent a client ofContinue reading “Hunker Down – Here Come the Holidays!”

Crazy is a relative term, so is normal

Question 1:  When is it, in the divorce process, that one parent finally gets to teach the other parent the right way of parenting? Question 2:  When in the divorce process does a judge finally tell one parent that he or she must act more like the other parent? Question 3:  How many months intoContinue reading “Crazy is a relative term, so is normal”

The Importance of the Decision to Divorce

“Thanks Mom & Dad – You Just Ruined My Life.” Would you rather: hear that sentence and know it is false? Or never hear that sentence, yet know it is true? That is a choice parents face all the time. Whether it comes to allowing kids to attend certain parties or concerts, paying more forContinue reading “The Importance of the Decision to Divorce”

Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…

What is the value of keeping your in-laws in a divorce? I recently heard a woman make an argument that she should be entitled to increased alimony because she lives closer to her in-laws than to her own parents.   Many states use a rubric of factors to determine alimony. Factors may include  length of theContinue reading “Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…”

What is the difference between a Guardian Ad Litem (“G-A-L”) and an Attorney For the Minor Children?

In cases involving the custody of minor children there are times when either one of the parties or a judge will suggest that the children need someone to represent their interests.  Sometimes, parents fail to recognize their own inherent conflict of interest with their children.  Frequently, this conflict of interest can result in disaster forContinue reading “What is the difference between a Guardian Ad Litem (“G-A-L”) and an Attorney For the Minor Children?”

Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?

When your lawyer says, “Don’t take his calls for a while; let things cool off, first.”  If the next thing you do is answer an angry phone call from your divorcing husband you are likely to find yourself in the middle of an expensive issue that may not have even existed until you answered theContinue reading “Which Costs More – Following or Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice?”

What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?

Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone).  For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody.  Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”

When Every Dollar Was a Hand Grenade

I finalized a matter this month between two of the most civilized and gentle people I have ever divorced.  As we went through the final papers and documents that needed to be reviewed and signed, they were patient and kind with each other.  The wife’s older brother drove 6 hours to be at the courtContinue reading “When Every Dollar Was a Hand Grenade”

The Emotional End of Your Divorce

  You remember those parties that at the end of the night, when everyone has gone, and the lights are on, and there is just a mess lying everywhere, and you know you should go to bed, but instead you linger? Not quite cleaning up; done eating, drinking, and dancing.  Just sort of wandering throughContinue reading “The Emotional End of Your Divorce”

How Co-Parenting Could Work for Heidi Klum’s Family, and yours..

Heidi Klum and her Husband Seal Henry Samuel are announcing their intention to divorce, by publishing this statement: “While we have enjoyed seven very loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much soul-searching we have decided to separate. We have had the deepest respect for one another throughout our relationship and continue to love eachContinue reading “How Co-Parenting Could Work for Heidi Klum’s Family, and yours..”