Holidays and Starting the New Year

As we wrap up the holidays, are you wandering from room to room wondering how you have survived so long with your spouse? Do you catch yourself forcing a smile for so long that your jaw starts to clench? Sometimes we spend the holidays with family and friends, thinking we are shielding them from ourContinue reading “Holidays and Starting the New Year”

Hunker Down – Here Come the Holidays!

As we all know, the end of the year brings with it all of the joys and excitement of the holiday season.  Unless you are going through a divorce.  Then it brings all of the “joys” and “excitement” of the holiday season. Here is an excerpt from an email I just sent a client ofContinue reading “Hunker Down – Here Come the Holidays!”

Whose divorce is this, anyway?

I had a surprising phone call today with an old friend.  He has been in the divorce process for almost a year, and could not see a way to conclude the process and get on with his life.  The reason, sadly, is because his wife won’t let him.  After all of these years of lettingContinue reading “Whose divorce is this, anyway?”

Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!

I rarely do this, but – you think your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is a jerk?  Getta’ loada’ THIS guy! Mr. and Mrs.  “Michaels” were married while Mr. Michaels was finishing his education at a prominent New York law school.  Mrs. Michaels worked two jobs so they could afford a decent place to live while herContinue reading “Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!”

Finding A Theme In Life

I don’t know about your house, but in my family, the resolutions have already begun meeting reality.  Diets are hard to maintain in cold weather.  No one is going out for a run in the snow.  With only one day of school under our belts, the backpacks were already in the middle of the livingContinue reading “Finding A Theme In Life”

Trust Issues and Moving Forward

When a love affair goes bad a jilted party often wants to reduce his or her feelings to writing as a way of processing the experience.  Some people then burn these letters, or file them away.  Of course, there are those who drop them in the mail or hit “send” once they are written.  Occasionally,Continue reading “Trust Issues and Moving Forward”

Successful Divorces

I have written before what a successful divorce is not.  It is not accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments.  I am always trying to pinpoint what does define a successful divorce, so I can help my clients keep that as the goal in their minds. It begins with taking an inventory of the bestContinue reading “Successful Divorces”

Stay Positive and Determine Your Own Happiness

I recently spent the day with a friend I have known for decades.  She lives a few states away and I was unable to help in her divorce, other than to cheer her on from the sidelines.  The husband was ruthless and my dear friend is still reeling, and doing her best to keep aContinue reading “Stay Positive and Determine Your Own Happiness”

What are the Differences Between Divorce, Legal Separation, and Just Being Separated?

A legal term for divorce is “Dissolution of Marriage,” meaning that once the marriage is dissolved, it ceases to exist.  Once a couple divorces, they are each single and unmarried. They are then free to come and go as they wish, marry someone else, or not, and have control of their own adult lives. OnceContinue reading “What are the Differences Between Divorce, Legal Separation, and Just Being Separated?”

Day of Divorce Situations

Is it a good idea to go out with your ex-spouse during the first hour you are exes?  I have two stories – one in favor and one against.  See which situation is most similar to your own before you decide. Kris and John divorced with no kids, no debts, a good profit on theirContinue reading “Day of Divorce Situations”