Don’t Take Your Ex’s Word for Everything

I received a call this week from “Tony,” a fictitious name for a man I represented in 1998, when he and his first wife had a 3 year old son together.  He has been a generous and involved father to his child from that marriage for the entire 15 years since his divorce. He paidContinue reading “Don’t Take Your Ex’s Word for Everything”

Whose divorce is this, anyway?

I had a surprising phone call today with an old friend.  He has been in the divorce process for almost a year, and could not see a way to conclude the process and get on with his life.  The reason, sadly, is because his wife won’t let him.  After all of these years of lettingContinue reading “Whose divorce is this, anyway?”

Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!

I rarely do this, but – you think your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is a jerk?  Getta’ loada’ THIS guy! Mr. and Mrs.  “Michaels” were married while Mr. Michaels was finishing his education at a prominent New York law school.  Mrs. Michaels worked two jobs so they could afford a decent place to live while herContinue reading “Getta’ loada’ THIS guy!”

What is Discovery and when is it necessary?

Most of my divorce practice is uncontested and amicable.  I help two consenting adults conduct the equivalent of a business transaction, so that both can move on with their lives and keep as much of their assets and dignity intact as possible.   In many of these cases the couple knows their own and each other’sContinue reading “What is Discovery and when is it necessary?”

When Lawyers Can’t Agree..

One of my favorite trips to court is on a busy family docket day.  One reason is that it is fun, is I get to run into so many lawyers that I happen to know from the area, all dressed-up and looking clean and smelling nice.  Most lawyers are on their best behavior in aContinue reading “When Lawyers Can’t Agree..”

Getting to the Negotiation Table

Two lawyers stood before a judge and argued whether financial affidavits should be exchanged by the 15th or the 30th of October.   They stood in a crowded courtroom and with straight faces told the judge that they were too far apart to decide which date the documents should be complete.  Neither of them made aContinue reading “Getting to the Negotiation Table”

Are you Ready or Hesitant?

Marriage affords people certain benefits.  There are compromises and pay-offs that married people balance and weigh all of the time.  It might actually be impossible to spend decades living with another fully-functioning adult and never get on each others nerves.  We are talking about marriage between human beings, after all. Divorce happens when those compromisesContinue reading “Are you Ready or Hesitant?”

When Every Dollar Was a Hand Grenade

I finalized a matter this month between two of the most civilized and gentle people I have ever divorced.  As we went through the final papers and documents that needed to be reviewed and signed, they were patient and kind with each other.  The wife’s older brother drove 6 hours to be at the courtContinue reading “When Every Dollar Was a Hand Grenade”

The High Costs of Non-Compliance

Recently, I was sitting in the conference room at my office, meeting with a husband and a wife who were signing their final agreement, we’ll call them Mr. and Mrs. Phillips.  We were reviewing terms, crossing Ts and dotting Is, and getting ready to go before the Judge for our hearing.  The hearing will beContinue reading “The High Costs of Non-Compliance”

The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)

Attorney Jones and her client Mr. Bob walk into the conference room at Attorney Jones’ Connecticut law office. They are expecting to take Mrs. Bob’s deposition today; and they have hired a court stenographer to record the proceedings.  Mrs. Bob is sitting there, alone, with a manila folder of papers on the table in frontContinue reading “The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)”