Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband

47 year old Melissa Gilbert filed for divorce this week from her second husband, Bruce Boxleitner, after 16 years of marriage.  The couple has a 15 year old son together, Michael (named for Gilbert’s former “Little House on the Prairie” Co-Star, Michael Landon).    Gilbert’s filing referenced the fact that the couple has been separated sinceContinue reading “Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband”

What do kids want to know about divorce?

Children want to know a few things:  whose fault is it, what can I do to make this stop, when will we be a family again. Parents have an obligation to have their children understand these responses:  no matter whose fault it is, it is never, never the child’s fault and there is nothing theContinue reading “What do kids want to know about divorce?”

10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY

First, a quick refresher on the 5 basic ground rules to understanding (and loving) your divorce: 1.         DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2.         All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3.         It does not matter whose fault it is.        4.         It is never too late. 5.         If someone’s life is in danger, get out now.  Figure theContinue reading “10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY”

Hi Honey, Let’s Get Divorced.

INFORMING YOUR SPOUSE, FAMILY AND FRIENDS How you tell someone about your divorce plays a large part in how he or she will react to the news.  If your spouse does not already know, try telling someone else, first, to practice what you will say.  Decide what your goals are:  to hurt your spouse?  ToContinue reading “Hi Honey, Let’s Get Divorced.”

How to choose your own Divorce Team

THE DIVORCE TEAM Assemble your team. As you recruit each team member make sure they know that they are being recruited, and for what role. Here are the roles you need to fill, and what their characteristics should be: Cheerleader:  (best friend) Does not offer legal advice. Does not criticize: not you, not your spouse,Continue reading “How to choose your own Divorce Team”

Like the NFL, Divorce is a Team Sport

BEGIN NOW TO THINK OF DIVORCE AS A TEAM SPORT:  Divorce usually begins with a break down in what was supposed to be the ultimate team- the family.  So, it is easy to feel completely alone and outnumbered as we start the divorce process.  It feels as if there is no one to talk to,Continue reading “Like the NFL, Divorce is a Team Sport”

What do these things have in common:  Q’Viva – The Chosen, The Miami Dolphins, Kohl’s newest clothing line, Emme Maribel Muñiz, and Maximilian “Max” David Muñiz? They are all joint projects of Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony.  (Okay, the Dolphins have a lot of owners, including J Lo and Anthony.) On July 16 the couple made a jointContinue reading

5 Ground Rules to Love Your Divorce

Below are my 5 ground rules to help you (or someone you love) Love Your Divorce: 1.         DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2.         All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3.         It does not matter whose fault it is.        4.         It is never too late. 5.         If someone’s life is in danger, get out now.  Figure theContinue reading “5 Ground Rules to Love Your Divorce”

When is it Alimony?

Alimony:  I interviewed a woman this week for a divorce. They have two small children. Her husband has been unemployed for 4 months and has begun drinking more (amount) and more (frequently).  She works full time to support the 4 of them.  They rent their home. She has a bachelor’s degree and does not makeContinue reading “When is it Alimony?”

What’s with all the greedy old men?

Sixty-one year old Peter Frampton has filed for divorce from his 3rd wife, Christina Elfers. The couple separated on New Year ’s Eve 2010 after being married for 15 years.  Frampton’s filing grants custodial custody of their teenaged daughter to her mother and requests joint rights of legal custody.  The cause of the breakdown ofContinue reading “What’s with all the greedy old men?”