Nobody gets married with the intention of getting divorced. Quite the opposite, “from this day forward, ‘til death parts us.” And, as we know, it might have been simpler if death had parted certain couples before the divorce process. Nonetheless once it is over, the sooner it is truly over the better. Because Divorce Sucks, andContinueContinue reading “Beginning Your New Life”
Category Archives: Divorce
Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?
No – you can’t read the Judge’s mind; but I can. Okay. Not really. But, there are clues which are surprisingly reliable. Picture this. You and your ex-wife have been fighting about custody, visitation, and money. You are barely making ends meet, and she keeps bringing you to court (making you pay your lawyer moreContinueContinue reading “Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?”
My Favorite Types of Divorces
My favorite types of divorces: First, the childless divorce, second, the adult child divorce (with an asterisk). The first category, the childless divorce, is the one I recommend most strongly. If you are married and plan to divorce please do not have children. If you are unhappily married please do not have children. If youContinueContinue reading “My Favorite Types of Divorces”
What it means to see things from the other person’s perspective, and how it might help.
A woman called me last week devastated. Her 28 year old husband told her he was going to visit his family in another state for a week. By the end of the week he called her and said he changed his mind, he is not returning. He wants a divorce. (I am not exaggerating, theseContinueContinue reading “What it means to see things from the other person’s perspective, and how it might help.”
Do Not Make These Phone Calls
I remember standing in a line for an airplane flight that had been delayed and watching the man in front of me berating the flight assistant who had the misfortune of bearing the bad news. I remember thinking that if she did have any food coupons, or any idea when our flight would leave, orContinueContinue reading “Do Not Make These Phone Calls”
Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband
47 year old Melissa Gilbert filed for divorce this week from her second husband, Bruce Boxleitner, after 16 years of marriage. The couple has a 15 year old son together, Michael (named for Gilbert’s former “Little House on the Prairie” Co-Star, Michael Landon). Gilbert’s filing referenced the fact that the couple has been separated sinceContinueContinue reading “Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband”
What do kids want to know about divorce?
Children want to know a few things: whose fault is it, what can I do to make this stop, when will we be a family again. Parents have an obligation to have their children understand these responses: no matter whose fault it is, it is never, never the child’s fault and there is nothing theContinueContinue reading “What do kids want to know about divorce?”
10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY
First, a quick refresher on the 5 basic ground rules to understanding (and loving) your divorce: 1. DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2. All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3. It does not matter whose fault it is. 4. It is never too late. 5. If someone’s life is in danger, get out now. Figure theContinueContinue reading “10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY”
Hi Honey, Let’s Get Divorced.
INFORMING YOUR SPOUSE, FAMILY AND FRIENDS How you tell someone about your divorce plays a large part in how he or she will react to the news. If your spouse does not already know, try telling someone else, first, to practice what you will say. Decide what your goals are: to hurt your spouse? ToContinueContinue reading “Hi Honey, Let’s Get Divorced.”
How to choose your own Divorce Team
THE DIVORCE TEAM Assemble your team. As you recruit each team member make sure they know that they are being recruited, and for what role. Here are the roles you need to fill, and what their characteristics should be: Cheerleader: (best friend) Does not offer legal advice. Does not criticize: not you, not your spouse,ContinueContinue reading “How to choose your own Divorce Team”
Love Your Divorce 