(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend”

Is there ever a reason why you would encourage your child to be friendly with your spouse’s new “significant other?” Maybe. Take this True or False Quiz to see if there ever is for you: 1.         My ex-husband is such a wimp that his new wife will be the one controlling their purse strings. TrueContinue reading “(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend””

How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table

My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom.  Bill still lives in the same town and sees the boys as often as his work & visitation schedules will allow. He misses them a lot.  Unlike some of the families IContinue reading “How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table”

Grateful for Grandparents

I had the privilege this week of meeting a pair of grandparents who helped give deeper meaning to my Thanksgiving.  I’ll call them Poppy and Nana.  Poppy and Nana have a son who is divorced from his first wife and re-married. The son has one son from the first marriage and two kids from theContinue reading “Grateful for Grandparents”

Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Let’s face it, no one knows you better than your former spouse.  There’s one person in the world who knows exactly how late (or early) you like to get out of bed in the morning.  There are museum strollers vs. mountain climbers; beach bums vs. ski bums; breakfast in bed vs. sunrise in the skyContinue reading “Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?”

Beginning Your New Life

Nobody gets married with the intention of getting divorced.  Quite the opposite, “from this day forward, ‘til death parts us.”  And, as we know, it might have been simpler if death had parted certain couples before the divorce process.  Nonetheless once it is over, the sooner it is truly over the better.  Because Divorce Sucks, andContinue reading “Beginning Your New Life”

Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?

No – you can’t read the Judge’s mind; but I can. Okay. Not really.  But, there are clues which are surprisingly reliable. Picture this. You and your ex-wife have been fighting about custody, visitation, and money.  You are barely making ends meet, and she keeps bringing you to court (making you pay your lawyer moreContinue reading “Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?”

Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband

47 year old Melissa Gilbert filed for divorce this week from her second husband, Bruce Boxleitner, after 16 years of marriage.  The couple has a 15 year old son together, Michael (named for Gilbert’s former “Little House on the Prairie” Co-Star, Michael Landon).    Gilbert’s filing referenced the fact that the couple has been separated sinceContinue reading “Why you want Melissa Gilbert to marry your ex-husband”

10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY

First, a quick refresher on the 5 basic ground rules to understanding (and loving) your divorce: 1.         DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2.         All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3.         It does not matter whose fault it is.        4.         It is never too late. 5.         If someone’s life is in danger, get out now.  Figure theContinue reading “10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY”

5 Ground Rules to Love Your Divorce

Below are my 5 ground rules to help you (or someone you love) Love Your Divorce: 1.         DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2.         All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3.         It does not matter whose fault it is.        4.         It is never too late. 5.         If someone’s life is in danger, get out now.  Figure theContinue reading “5 Ground Rules to Love Your Divorce”

Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?

Kelsey Grammer and Camille Grammer have been divorced for more than 3 months.  Kelsey is remarried, Camille is reportedly filming new episodes on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills while considering another spot on CNN.  Their two minor children together, ages 6 and 9, have been settled into their new lives.  Each child reportedly has two full-time nannies.Continue reading “Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?”