Custody, Visitation, Residency, and Child Support

I spoke with a young man today; we’ll call him “Herman.”  Herman is happily married with two pre-school age children from this marriage.  He also has a 14 year old son from a prior relationship.  We’ll call the son “Anthony,” and his mother “Tina.” Tina and Herman were never married; I’m not even sure theyContinue reading “Custody, Visitation, Residency, and Child Support”

December Dilemmas

Sometimes it is difficult to separate the best interest of the minor child from our own best interests.  Here is a secret: they are very seldom the same thing.  While you are going through (or about to go through) a divorce or legal separation is a time to be extra cautious about keeping everyone’s interestsContinue reading “December Dilemmas”

How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table

My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom.  Bill still lives in the same town and sees the boys as often as his work & visitation schedules will allow. He misses them a lot.  Unlike some of the families IContinue reading “How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table”

Grateful for Grandparents

I had the privilege this week of meeting a pair of grandparents who helped give deeper meaning to my Thanksgiving.  I’ll call them Poppy and Nana.  Poppy and Nana have a son who is divorced from his first wife and re-married. The son has one son from the first marriage and two kids from theContinue reading “Grateful for Grandparents”

Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Let’s face it, no one knows you better than your former spouse.  There’s one person in the world who knows exactly how late (or early) you like to get out of bed in the morning.  There are museum strollers vs. mountain climbers; beach bums vs. ski bums; breakfast in bed vs. sunrise in the skyContinue reading “Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?”

What do kids want to know about divorce?

Children want to know a few things:  whose fault is it, what can I do to make this stop, when will we be a family again. Parents have an obligation to have their children understand these responses:  no matter whose fault it is, it is never, never the child’s fault and there is nothing theContinue reading “What do kids want to know about divorce?”

10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY

First, a quick refresher on the 5 basic ground rules to understanding (and loving) your divorce: 1.         DIVORCE SUCKS!! 2.         All spouses are monsters (including your spouse’s spouse). 3.         It does not matter whose fault it is.        4.         It is never too late. 5.         If someone’s life is in danger, get out now.  Figure theContinue reading “10 SENTENCES A DIVORCING PERSON MIGHT SAY”

Will marriage matter for Owen Wilson’s baby?

Owen Wilson’s 5 month old son Robert and Robert’s mother Jade Duell are relocating to New York while Wilson remains in California, according to reports on Hollybaby.com, PerezHilton.com and popeater.com. The parents have apparently known each other for a little more than a year, having met on an airplane. Wilson announced that he was going to be aContinue reading “Will marriage matter for Owen Wilson’s baby?”

What’s with all the greedy old men?

Sixty-one year old Peter Frampton has filed for divorce from his 3rd wife, Christina Elfers. The couple separated on New Year ’s Eve 2010 after being married for 15 years.  Frampton’s filing grants custodial custody of their teenaged daughter to her mother and requests joint rights of legal custody.  The cause of the breakdown ofContinue reading “What’s with all the greedy old men?”

Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?

Kelsey Grammer and Camille Grammer have been divorced for more than 3 months.  Kelsey is remarried, Camille is reportedly filming new episodes on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills while considering another spot on CNN.  Their two minor children together, ages 6 and 9, have been settled into their new lives.  Each child reportedly has two full-time nannies.Continue reading “Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?”