Are you Ready or Hesitant?

Marriage affords people certain benefits.  There are compromises and pay-offs that married people balance and weigh all of the time.  It might actually be impossible to spend decades living with another fully-functioning adult and never get on each others nerves.  We are talking about marriage between human beings, after all. Divorce happens when those compromisesContinue reading “Are you Ready or Hesitant?”

The Desert Island Theory

Remember the old game, “If you were stranded on a desert island and could only bring one album* what would it be?” (* or DVD, or CD, or book, or movie, or friend…) The first question, of course, is if you were stranded on a desert island, how did you have time to pack thatContinue reading “The Desert Island Theory”

How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce

You know these people – the ones who weigh every relationship, every opportunity, as an opportunity to “get” more.  We’ll call them the Takersons.  A Takerson has two friends, one owns a boat; the other does not.  One Saturday evening the Takersons have dinner plans with their non-boat friends.   Everyone has hired babysitters, arranged theirContinue reading “How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce”

The Cost of Divorce

“How long will this take, and how much is it going to cost me?” This is a question divorce attorneys frequently hear from their clients.  Sometimes it is a question regarding an aspect of the divorce – such as a custody modification, or the entire divorce.  It is an interesting question. First, there are someContinue reading “The Cost of Divorce”

It’s always wise to offer kindness

I am inspired by one of the couples I am divorcing in July.  This is what they have:  debts, a looming foreclosure, potential bankruptcy, 1 working vehicle (unregistered), 3 surviving parents (none of whom are helpful), one angry sister-in-law, 2 known affairs, raging alcoholism, and two young children. Only one spouse is capable of earning aContinue reading “It’s always wise to offer kindness”

The light at the end of the tunnel..

Two old friends, Jane & Susan, run into each other for the first time in years.  Jane: Sue, you look fantastic! What’s your secret? Susan: I lost 200 pounds of unwanted dead weight. Jane: how? Susan: I got a divorce! …… This is what criminal attorneys say about divorce: “In criminal law we represent someContinue reading “The light at the end of the tunnel..”

Bling in Your Face..

What brings divorced people back to a lawyer’s office, or the courthouse?  Usually, a “significant change in circumstances,” or at least the perception of a change in circumstances. Most states have a rule that child support (and sometimes alimony) can be changed after the divorce is final, but only if one spouse’s circumstances change inContinue reading “Bling in Your Face..”

No Major Decisions by Text

The digital age of divorce has its benefits.  My clients and I can keep in touch with each other 24/7 via text and email. We used to reserve most of our communications for business hours, and only those hours when I was not in court or meeting with someone else. They all had my homeContinue reading “No Major Decisions by Text”

Are Post-Nuptial Agreements a Good Idea For You?

We have all heard of the fear and loathing associated with Pre- Nuptial, or pre-marital, agreements.  Accusations by the greedy and suspicious families of the newly-engaged can lead the love-struck straight to lawyers’ offices.  Innocence dashed on the rocks of such concepts as “gold digger,” “mercenary,” and worse.  Long before anyone has a chance toContinue reading “Are Post-Nuptial Agreements a Good Idea For You?”

Ease your way into things..

A man once had a cat that he loved very much.  When he went away for a six-month work assignment, he left the cat in the care of his brother, promising to call every week and check on the status of his beloved cat. All went well, until one week when the man called andContinue reading “Ease your way into things..”