Question 1: When is it, in the divorce process, that one parent finally gets to teach the other parent the right way of parenting? Question 2: When in the divorce process does a judge finally tell one parent that he or she must act more like the other parent? Question 3: How many months intoContinueContinue reading “Crazy is a relative term, so is normal”
Category Archives: Divorce
Cohabitation After Divorce
In an ironic twist on the old wives tale that living together before marriage would lead to divorce, there seems to be a growing trend of post-dissolution cohabitation, or – divorce leading to more couples living together after marriage. Until the economy is on more solid footing, sometimes it just makes fiscal sense to combineContinueContinue reading “Cohabitation After Divorce”
The Importance of the Decision to Divorce
“Thanks Mom & Dad – You Just Ruined My Life.” Would you rather: hear that sentence and know it is false? Or never hear that sentence, yet know it is true? That is a choice parents face all the time. Whether it comes to allowing kids to attend certain parties or concerts, paying more forContinueContinue reading “The Importance of the Decision to Divorce”
Are you Ready or Hesitant?
Marriage affords people certain benefits. There are compromises and pay-offs that married people balance and weigh all of the time. It might actually be impossible to spend decades living with another fully-functioning adult and never get on each others nerves. We are talking about marriage between human beings, after all.Divorce happens when those compromises noContinueContinue reading “Are you Ready or Hesitant?”
The Desert Island Theory
Remember the old game, “If you were stranded on a desert island and could only bring one album* what would it be?” (* or DVD, or CD, or book, or movie, or friend…) The first question, of course, is if you were stranded on a desert island, how did you have time to pack thatContinueContinue reading “The Desert Island Theory”
How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce
You know these people – the ones who weigh every relationship, every opportunity, as an opportunity to “get” more. We’ll call them the Takersons. A Takerson has two friends, one owns a boat; the other does not. One Saturday evening the Takersons have dinner plans with their non-boat friends. Everyone has hired babysitters, arranged theirContinueContinue reading “How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce”
The Cost of Divorce
“How long will this take, and how much is it going to cost me?” This is a question divorce attorneys frequently hear from their clients. Sometimes it is a question regarding an aspect of the divorce – such as a custody modification, or the entire divorce. It is an interesting question. First, there are someContinueContinue reading “The Cost of Divorce”
It’s always wise to offer kindness
I am inspired by one of the couples I am divorcing in July. This is what they have: debts, a looming foreclosure, potential bankruptcy, 1 working vehicle (unregistered), 3 surviving parents (none of whom are helpful), one angry sister-in-law, 2 known affairs, raging alcoholism, and two young children. Only one spouse is capable of earning aContinueContinue reading “It’s always wise to offer kindness”
The light at the end of the tunnel..
Two old friends, Jane & Susan, run into each other for the first time in years. Jane: Sue, you look fantastic! What’s your secret? Susan: I lost 200 pounds of unwanted dead weight. Jane: how? Susan: I got a divorce! …… This is what criminal attorneys say about divorce: “In criminal law we represent someContinueContinue reading “The light at the end of the tunnel..”
Bling in Your Face..
What brings divorced people back to a lawyer’s office, or the courthouse? Usually, a “significant change in circumstances,” or at least the perception of a change in circumstances. Most states have a rule that child support (and sometimes alimony) can be changed after the divorce is final, but only if one spouse’s circumstances change inContinueContinue reading “Bling in Your Face..”
Love Your Divorce 