Day of Divorce Situations

Is it a good idea to go out with your ex-spouse during the first hour you are exes?  I have two stories – one in favor and one against.  See which situation is most similar to your own before you decide. Kris and John divorced with no kids, no debts, a good profit on theirContinue reading “Day of Divorce Situations”

Don’t Let Divorce Define You

Yesterday, once again, I left the courthouse beaming with pride at what my clients have accomplished.  We sat in the courtroom most of the morning waiting until the judge could take our uncontested divorce action.  We waited through status conferences in which people fought over what date they would exchange financial information.  We sat throughContinue reading “Don’t Let Divorce Define You”

Getting to the Negotiation Table

Two lawyers stood before a judge and argued whether financial affidavits should be exchanged by the 15th or the 30th of October.   They stood in a crowded courtroom and with straight faces told the judge that they were too far apart to decide which date the documents should be complete.  Neither of them made aContinue reading “Getting to the Negotiation Table”

Crazy is a relative term, so is normal

Question 1:  When is it, in the divorce process, that one parent finally gets to teach the other parent the right way of parenting? Question 2:  When in the divorce process does a judge finally tell one parent that he or she must act more like the other parent? Question 3:  How many months intoContinue reading “Crazy is a relative term, so is normal”

Cohabitation After Divorce

In an ironic twist on the old wives tale that living together before marriage would lead to divorce, there seems to be a growing trend of post-dissolution cohabitation, or – divorce leading to more couples living together after marriage.  Until the economy is on more solid footing, sometimes it just makes fiscal sense to combineContinue reading “Cohabitation After Divorce”

The Importance of the Decision to Divorce

“Thanks Mom & Dad – You Just Ruined My Life.” Would you rather: hear that sentence and know it is false? Or never hear that sentence, yet know it is true? That is a choice parents face all the time. Whether it comes to allowing kids to attend certain parties or concerts, paying more forContinue reading “The Importance of the Decision to Divorce”

Are you Ready or Hesitant?

Marriage affords people certain benefits.  There are compromises and pay-offs that married people balance and weigh all of the time.  It might actually be impossible to spend decades living with another fully-functioning adult and never get on each others nerves.  We are talking about marriage between human beings, after all. Divorce happens when those compromisesContinue reading “Are you Ready or Hesitant?”

The Desert Island Theory

Remember the old game, “If you were stranded on a desert island and could only bring one album* what would it be?” (* or DVD, or CD, or book, or movie, or friend…) The first question, of course, is if you were stranded on a desert island, how did you have time to pack thatContinue reading “The Desert Island Theory”

How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce

You know these people – the ones who weigh every relationship, every opportunity, as an opportunity to “get” more.  We’ll call them the Takersons.  A Takerson has two friends, one owns a boat; the other does not.  One Saturday evening the Takersons have dinner plans with their non-boat friends.   Everyone has hired babysitters, arranged theirContinue reading “How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce”