Holidays and Who to Have Over

The holiday guest lists are being written.  I love asking people whom they are going to see over the holidays because there are so often fun surprises tucked inside the “usual” family list. A few of my favorite answers I have heard include: *   My husband and our kids, my 2 sisters, their husbands andContinue reading “Holidays and Who to Have Over”

Home for the Holidays

Even though this post was originally made 2 years ago, for the holidays in 2011, what we love still rings true today. My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom.  Bill still lives in the same town and sees theContinue reading “Home for the Holidays”

Trust Issues and Moving Forward

When a love affair goes bad a jilted party often wants to reduce his or her feelings to writing as a way of processing the experience.  Some people then burn these letters, or file them away.  Of course, there are those who drop them in the mail or hit “send” once they are written.  Occasionally,Continue reading “Trust Issues and Moving Forward”

How All the Pieces Fit

What is a successful divorce?  In my opinion, it has nothing to do with accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments.  It has everything to do with an ability to carry forward the best parts of the person you married while being able to walk away from the parts that don’t work for you.  WhenContinue reading “How All the Pieces Fit”

Being the Best You In a Divorce

I met a policeman last week.  He has been divorced 8 years and his youngest child just turned 18 after graduating high school.  His child support orders are through, over! He spent a little time discussing the divorce process with me.  He and his wife each had their own lawyers, and they each spent quiteContinue reading “Being the Best You In a Divorce”

Successful Divorces

I have written before what a successful divorce is not.  It is not accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments.  I am always trying to pinpoint what does define a successful divorce, so I can help my clients keep that as the goal in their minds. It begins with taking an inventory of the bestContinue reading “Successful Divorces”

What is Discovery and when is it necessary?

Most of my divorce practice is uncontested and amicable.  I help two consenting adults conduct the equivalent of a business transaction, so that both can move on with their lives and keep as much of their assets and dignity intact as possible.   In many of these cases the couple knows their own and each other’sContinue reading “What is Discovery and when is it necessary?”

Stay Positive and Determine Your Own Happiness

I recently spent the day with a friend I have known for decades.  She lives a few states away and I was unable to help in her divorce, other than to cheer her on from the sidelines.  The husband was ruthless and my dear friend is still reeling, and doing her best to keep aContinue reading “Stay Positive and Determine Your Own Happiness”

When Lawyers Can’t Agree..

One of my favorite trips to court is on a busy family docket day.  One reason is that it is fun, is I get to run into so many lawyers that I happen to know from the area, all dressed-up and looking clean and smelling nice.  Most lawyers are on their best behavior in aContinue reading “When Lawyers Can’t Agree..”

What are the Differences Between Divorce, Legal Separation, and Just Being Separated?

A legal term for divorce is “Dissolution of Marriage,” meaning that once the marriage is dissolved, it ceases to exist.  Once a couple divorces, they are each single and unmarried. They are then free to come and go as they wish, marry someone else, or not, and have control of their own adult lives. OnceContinue reading “What are the Differences Between Divorce, Legal Separation, and Just Being Separated?”