The Advantages of a Long-Distance Divorce

My client just left on a cruise.  Her kids are grown; her divorce is underway; and she does not want to sit here every day from now until the divorce date fighting over the nitty-gritty with her husband.  Nor should she. She has empowered her financial advisor (who is a certified divorce mediator) to bargainContinue reading “The Advantages of a Long-Distance Divorce”

The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)

Attorney Jones and her client Mr. Bob walk into the conference room at Attorney Jones’ Connecticut law office. They are expecting to take Mrs. Bob’s deposition today; and they have hired a court stenographer to record the proceedings.  Mrs. Bob is sitting there, alone, with a manila folder of papers on the table in frontContinue reading “The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)”

When the Divorce Turned Ugly

 The minute she found out he has a girlfriend.  Here is a phone call I had this week with a new client.  We’ll call him Burt. Burt:  I need a new lawyer. The one I have been using ruined my divorce. Me: That’s terrible!  What happened? Burt: I have no idea.  My wife threw meContinue reading “When the Divorce Turned Ugly”

Verification Matters

I am working on a mediated divorce between two people who have more debts than assets.  Frankly, I have been doing quite a few of these lately. We have clients who have everything worked out but cannot complete their divorce until the marital residence sells or gets foreclosed or refinanced.  So, this couple is waitingContinue reading “Verification Matters”

Why Am I Paying His Rent?

I met with a wife tonight who is ready for a divorce. They have exhausted the options for making the marriage work, but she cannot get him off the couch – literally – and she is ready to move on with her life.  She has asked him to move out, and he does not knowContinue reading “Why Am I Paying His Rent?”

Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Let’s face it, no one knows you better than your former spouse.  There’s one person in the world who knows exactly how late (or early) you like to get out of bed in the morning.  There are museum strollers vs. mountain climbers; beach bums vs. ski bums; breakfast in bed vs. sunrise in the skyContinue reading “Is Vacationing With Your Ex a Good Idea?”

Is Divorce James Marsden’s Best Acting Role?

From People Magazine: “One day after news broke that James Marsden‘s wife, Lisa Linde, had filed for divorce, the pair stepped out in Studio City, Calif., with their son Jack, 10, looking like the “great friends” their rep told PEOPLE that the former spouses intend to be.” James Marsden is known for his movie &Continue reading “Is Divorce James Marsden’s Best Acting Role?”

Beginning Your New Life

Nobody gets married with the intention of getting divorced.  Quite the opposite, “from this day forward, ‘til death parts us.”  And, as we know, it might have been simpler if death had parted certain couples before the divorce process.  Nonetheless once it is over, the sooner it is truly over the better.  Because Divorce Sucks, andContinue reading “Beginning Your New Life”

Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?

No – you can’t read the Judge’s mind; but I can. Okay. Not really.  But, there are clues which are surprisingly reliable. Picture this. You and your ex-wife have been fighting about custody, visitation, and money.  You are barely making ends meet, and she keeps bringing you to court (making you pay your lawyer moreContinue reading “Can You Read the Judge’s Mind?”

My Favorite Types of Divorces

My favorite types of divorces: First, the childless divorce, second, the adult child divorce (with an asterisk). The first category, the childless divorce, is the one I recommend most strongly.  If you are married and plan to divorce please do not have children.  If you are unhappily married please do not have children.  If youContinue reading “My Favorite Types of Divorces”