Great Divorces begin with Great Break-ups

The best break-up I ever heard about was a couple I knew in law school.  “Ken” and “Sarah” had been dating for 5 years.   They had moved out West and bought a house together after college graduation.  Both far from their families, they were each other’s best friends and surrogate family.  In time, they beganContinue reading “Great Divorces begin with Great Break-ups”

How much should your divorce cost you?

Getting along during the divorce process is a key factor to the rest of your life. By deciding not to fight during this critical juncture you can make long-term decisions based not on factors such as revenge, annoyance, hostility, or bankruptcy. Instead, amicable dissolutions afford participants the opportunity to envision a productive and happy futureContinue reading “How much should your divorce cost you?”

What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?

Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone).  For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody.  Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”

The High Costs of Non-Compliance

Recently, I was sitting in the conference room at my office, meeting with a husband and a wife who were signing their final agreement, we’ll call them Mr. and Mrs. Phillips.  We were reviewing terms, crossing Ts and dotting Is, and getting ready to go before the Judge for our hearing.  The hearing will beContinue reading “The High Costs of Non-Compliance”

The Emotional End of Your Divorce

  You remember those parties that at the end of the night, when everyone has gone, and the lights are on, and there is just a mess lying everywhere, and you know you should go to bed, but instead you linger? Not quite cleaning up; done eating, drinking, and dancing.  Just sort of wandering throughContinue reading “The Emotional End of Your Divorce”

The Advantages of a Long-Distance Divorce

My client just left on a cruise.  Her kids are grown; her divorce is underway; and she does not want to sit here every day from now until the divorce date fighting over the nitty-gritty with her husband.  Nor should she. She has empowered her financial advisor (who is a certified divorce mediator) to bargainContinue reading “The Advantages of a Long-Distance Divorce”

December Dilemmas

Sometimes it is difficult to separate the best interest of the minor child from our own best interests.  Here is a secret: they are very seldom the same thing.  While you are going through (or about to go through) a divorce or legal separation is a time to be extra cautious about keeping everyone’s interestsContinue reading “December Dilemmas”

Verification Matters

I am working on a mediated divorce between two people who have more debts than assets.  Frankly, I have been doing quite a few of these lately. We have clients who have everything worked out but cannot complete their divorce until the marital residence sells or gets foreclosed or refinanced.  So, this couple is waitingContinue reading “Verification Matters”

Why Am I Paying His Rent?

I met with a wife tonight who is ready for a divorce. They have exhausted the options for making the marriage work, but she cannot get him off the couch – literally – and she is ready to move on with her life.  She has asked him to move out, and he does not knowContinue reading “Why Am I Paying His Rent?”

How to avoid creating a murderer

Happy Halloween. Here is the scariest thing I saw today: “Wife shall purchase Life Insurance in the amount of the outstanding mortgage on the marital residence naming Husband as beneficiary.” Gave me chills – like reading the woman’s death warrant.  Spooky on Halloween! Not so bad by itself – I agree – but this wasContinue reading “How to avoid creating a murderer”