Finding A Theme In Life

I don’t know about your house, but in my family, the resolutions have already begun meeting reality.  Diets are hard to maintain in cold weather.  No one is going out for a run in the snow.  With only one day of school under our belts, the backpacks were already in the middle of the livingContinue reading “Finding A Theme In Life”

Home for the Holidays

Even though this post was originally made 2 years ago, for the holidays in 2011, what we love still rings true today. My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom.  Bill still lives in the same town and sees theContinue reading “Home for the Holidays”

Trust Issues and Moving Forward

When a love affair goes bad a jilted party often wants to reduce his or her feelings to writing as a way of processing the experience.  Some people then burn these letters, or file them away.  Of course, there are those who drop them in the mail or hit “send” once they are written.  Occasionally,Continue reading “Trust Issues and Moving Forward”

Being the Best You In a Divorce

I met a policeman last week.  He has been divorced 8 years and his youngest child just turned 18 after graduating high school.  His child support orders are through, over! He spent a little time discussing the divorce process with me.  He and his wife each had their own lawyers, and they each spent quiteContinue reading “Being the Best You In a Divorce”

Successful Divorces

I have written before what a successful divorce is not.  It is not accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments.  I am always trying to pinpoint what does define a successful divorce, so I can help my clients keep that as the goal in their minds. It begins with taking an inventory of the bestContinue reading “Successful Divorces”

What is Discovery and when is it necessary?

Most of my divorce practice is uncontested and amicable.  I help two consenting adults conduct the equivalent of a business transaction, so that both can move on with their lives and keep as much of their assets and dignity intact as possible.   In many of these cases the couple knows their own and each other’sContinue reading “What is Discovery and when is it necessary?”

When Lawyers Can’t Agree..

One of my favorite trips to court is on a busy family docket day.  One reason is that it is fun, is I get to run into so many lawyers that I happen to know from the area, all dressed-up and looking clean and smelling nice.  Most lawyers are on their best behavior in aContinue reading “When Lawyers Can’t Agree..”

What are the Differences Between Divorce, Legal Separation, and Just Being Separated?

A legal term for divorce is “Dissolution of Marriage,” meaning that once the marriage is dissolved, it ceases to exist.  Once a couple divorces, they are each single and unmarried. They are then free to come and go as they wish, marry someone else, or not, and have control of their own adult lives. OnceContinue reading “What are the Differences Between Divorce, Legal Separation, and Just Being Separated?”

Don’t Let Divorce Define You

Yesterday, once again, I left the courthouse beaming with pride at what my clients have accomplished.  We sat in the courtroom most of the morning waiting until the judge could take our uncontested divorce action.  We waited through status conferences in which people fought over what date they would exchange financial information.  We sat throughContinue reading “Don’t Let Divorce Define You”

Getting to the Negotiation Table

Two lawyers stood before a judge and argued whether financial affidavits should be exchanged by the 15th or the 30th of October.   They stood in a crowded courtroom and with straight faces told the judge that they were too far apart to decide which date the documents should be complete.  Neither of them made aContinue reading “Getting to the Negotiation Table”