Even though this post was originally made 2 years ago, for the holidays in 2011, what we love still rings true today. My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom. Bill still lives in the same town and sees theContinue reading “Home for the Holidays”
Tag Archives: Emotions and Divorce
Trust Issues and Moving Forward
When a love affair goes bad a jilted party often wants to reduce his or her feelings to writing as a way of processing the experience. Some people then burn these letters, or file them away. Of course, there are those who drop them in the mail or hit “send” once they are written. Occasionally,Continue reading “Trust Issues and Moving Forward”
How All the Pieces Fit
What is a successful divorce? In my opinion, it has nothing to do with accumulated assets, properties, alimony, or support payments. It has everything to do with an ability to carry forward the best parts of the person you married while being able to walk away from the parts that don’t work for you. WhenContinue reading “How All the Pieces Fit”
Being the Best You In a Divorce
I met a policeman last week. He has been divorced 8 years and his youngest child just turned 18 after graduating high school. His child support orders are through, over! He spent a little time discussing the divorce process with me. He and his wife each had their own lawyers, and they each spent quiteContinue reading “Being the Best You In a Divorce”
The Desert Island Theory
Remember the old game, “If you were stranded on a desert island and could only bring one album* what would it be?” (* or DVD, or CD, or book, or movie, or friend…) The first question, of course, is if you were stranded on a desert island, how did you have time to pack thatContinue reading “The Desert Island Theory”
It’s always wise to offer kindness
I am inspired by one of the couples I am divorcing in July. This is what they have: debts, a looming foreclosure, potential bankruptcy, 1 working vehicle (unregistered), 3 surviving parents (none of whom are helpful), one angry sister-in-law, 2 known affairs, raging alcoholism, and two young children. Only one spouse is capable of earning aContinue reading “It’s always wise to offer kindness”
GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD
The eastern seaboard of the United States has just come through a major storm and its after-effects. Hundreds of thousands of people are still without electricity and more are dealing with the results and damages. More than a hundred people are reported dead. Those of us who “only” lost heat, or electricity, or cell serviceContinue reading “GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD”
When the Divorce Turned Ugly
The minute she found out he has a girlfriend. Here is a phone call I had this week with a new client. We’ll call him Burt. Burt: I need a new lawyer. The one I have been using ruined my divorce. Me: That’s terrible! What happened? Burt: I have no idea. My wife threw meContinue reading “When the Divorce Turned Ugly”
How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table
My friend, whom I will call Bill, is divorced with two teenaged sons. The boys live in the marital home with their mom. Bill still lives in the same town and sees the boys as often as his work & visitation schedules will allow. He misses them a lot. Unlike some of the families IContinue reading “How (& Why!) to be Welcome at your ex’s Thanksgiving Table”
Grateful for Grandparents
I had the privilege this week of meeting a pair of grandparents who helped give deeper meaning to my Thanksgiving. I’ll call them Poppy and Nana. Poppy and Nana have a son who is divorced from his first wife and re-married. The son has one son from the first marriage and two kids from theContinue reading “Grateful for Grandparents”
Love Your Divorce 