How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce

You know these people – the ones who weigh every relationship, every opportunity, as an opportunity to “get” more.  We’ll call them the Takersons.  A Takerson has two friends, one owns a boat; the other does not.  One Saturday evening the Takersons have dinner plans with their non-boat friends.   Everyone has hired babysitters, arranged theirContinue reading “How Being a Taker Plays Out in Divorce”

Merry Christmas – Now get the heck out!

End of Year thoughts on Divorce If you have not already served your spouse with divorce papers; why not wait until the holidays are over?  Good divorces start with a good beginning. “Merry Christmas-get the heck out!” is not a good beginning. If you are already in the midst of it, consider taking a hiatus,Continue reading “Merry Christmas – Now get the heck out!”

What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?

Custody is usually divided into legal and physical custody; each of which can be either joint (both parents together) or sole (one parent alone).  For as long as the biological parents and their child are all living together, the parents share joint physical and legal custody.  Once a parent re-locates; the custody questions need toContinue reading “What are the Different Types of Custody in a Divorce?”

Custody, Visitation, Residency, and Child Support

I spoke with a young man today; we’ll call him “Herman.”  Herman is happily married with two pre-school age children from this marriage.  He also has a 14 year old son from a prior relationship.  We’ll call the son “Anthony,” and his mother “Tina.” Tina and Herman were never married; I’m not even sure theyContinue reading “Custody, Visitation, Residency, and Child Support”

The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)

Attorney Jones and her client Mr. Bob walk into the conference room at Attorney Jones’ Connecticut law office. They are expecting to take Mrs. Bob’s deposition today; and they have hired a court stenographer to record the proceedings.  Mrs. Bob is sitting there, alone, with a manila folder of papers on the table in frontContinue reading “The Pennsylvania Alimony Chart (Or – Why to Hire a Good Attorney)”

(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend”

Is there ever a reason why you would encourage your child to be friendly with your spouse’s new “significant other?” Maybe. Take this True or False Quiz to see if there ever is for you: 1.         My ex-husband is such a wimp that his new wife will be the one controlling their purse strings. TrueContinue reading “(The Politics of) “Dad’s New Girlfriend””

When the Divorce Turned Ugly

 The minute she found out he has a girlfriend.  Here is a phone call I had this week with a new client.  We’ll call him Burt. Burt:  I need a new lawyer. The one I have been using ruined my divorce. Me: That’s terrible!  What happened? Burt: I have no idea.  My wife threw meContinue reading “When the Divorce Turned Ugly”

Verification Matters

I am working on a mediated divorce between two people who have more debts than assets.  Frankly, I have been doing quite a few of these lately. We have clients who have everything worked out but cannot complete their divorce until the marital residence sells or gets foreclosed or refinanced.  So, this couple is waitingContinue reading “Verification Matters”

How to avoid creating a murderer

Happy Halloween. Here is the scariest thing I saw today: “Wife shall purchase Life Insurance in the amount of the outstanding mortgage on the marital residence naming Husband as beneficiary.” Gave me chills – like reading the woman’s death warrant.  Spooky on Halloween! Not so bad by itself – I agree – but this wasContinue reading “How to avoid creating a murderer”