Tag Archives: Divorce

Are Post-Nuptial Agreements a Good Idea For You?

We have all heard of the fear and loathing associated with Pre- Nuptial, or pre-marital, agreements.  Accusations by the greedy and suspicious families of the newly-engaged can lead the love-struck straight to lawyers’ offices.  Innocence dashed on the rocks of such concepts as “gold digger,” “mercenary,” and worse.  Long before anyone has a chance toContinueContinue reading “Are Post-Nuptial Agreements a Good Idea For You?”

Ease your way into things..

A man once had a cat that he loved very much.  When he went away for a six-month work assignment, he left the cat in the care of his brother, promising to call every week and check on the status of his beloved cat.All went well, until one week when the man called and askedContinueContinue reading “Ease your way into things..”

Keep your eyes on the road ahead..

What divorce does (and does not) solveWell, the truth is, it only solves a few specific things.  Divorce does not make you more (or less) organized, motivated, sober (or carefree), responsible or irresponsible.  It might, for a while, increase or alleviate a few of those traits.  For example, if you are an ordinarily organized andContinueContinue reading “Keep your eyes on the road ahead..”

How Cooperation Can Lead to Champagne..

If you had to have a champagne toast with just one person at the end of your divorce, who would it be?My opinion is that if you have done it right, that person would be your ex-spouse.  Picture two glass flutes, filled 2/3s of the way up with golden hued liquid, bubbles rising to theContinueContinue reading “How Cooperation Can Lead to Champagne..”

Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…

What is the value of keeping your in-laws in a divorce? I recently heard a woman make an argument that she should be entitled to increased alimony because she lives closer to her in-laws than to her own parents.   Many states use a rubric of factors to determine alimony. Factors may include  length of theContinueContinue reading “Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…”

Perspective

Perspective. I recently met with a group of marital and family therapists.  Perspective is their job, right?  They  listen to a woman wonder whether she should divorce a man who loves her unconditionally but doesn’t communicate well, she leaves the therapist’s  office and a man walks in whose wife is physically and verbally abusive, butContinueContinue reading “Perspective”

I Bit Off More Than I Could Chew

I bit off more than I could chew. My kids’ school and their extra-curricular activities, my book group, speaking opportunities and volunteer work, my husband’s travel schedule, social lives for all of us, and – oh, yeah, my job — each grew bigger than I was prepared to handle all at once. The next thingContinueContinue reading “I Bit Off More Than I Could Chew”

Merry Christmas – Now get the heck out!

End of Year thoughts on Divorce If you have not already served your spouse with divorce papers; why not wait until the holidays are over?  Good divorces start with a good beginning. “Merry Christmas-get the heck out!” is not a good beginning. If you are already in the midst of it, consider taking a hiatus,ContinueContinue reading “Merry Christmas – Now get the heck out!”

GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD

The eastern seaboard of the United States has just come through a major storm and its after-effects. Hundreds of thousands of people are still without electricity and more are dealing with the results and damages.  More than a hundred people are reported dead.  Those of us who “only” lost heat, or electricity, or cell serviceContinueContinue reading “GRATITUDE IN A POST-SANDY WORLD”