Two lawyers stood before a judge and argued whether financial affidavits should be exchanged by the 15th or the 30th of October. They stood in a crowded courtroom and with straight faces told the judge that they were too far apart to decide which date the documents should be complete. Neither of them made aContinue reading “Getting to the Negotiation Table”
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A COVID Silver Lining in the Judicial System
One weakness that covid exposed in many state judicial systems was the back log of family law cases which could not be addressed while courthouses were being shut down. Each state handled matters in their own way, but many adapted a new set of protocols based upon the multi-state triage and pathways model. I wasContinue reading “A COVID Silver Lining in the Judicial System”
What is the Goal of a Mediated Divorce?
In a mediated divorce we are trying to make sure that everyone gets a fair share of all available resources, including the assets and debts, the income, and time with the children. But in a litigated divorce there’s an extra item to distribute: Blame. Unlike everything else on the list, there is usually more than enoughContinue reading “What is the Goal of a Mediated Divorce?”
Who Do These Agreements Benefit?
I have clients who are in a hurry to finalize their divorce agreement, even though the date of their hearing is months away. I also have clients who are avoiding me rather than have to commit anything to paper yet. I have clients who want to know the details of the spouse’s financial picture beforeContinue reading “Who Do These Agreements Benefit?”
Perspective
Perspective. I recently met with a group of marital and family therapists. Perspective is their job, right? They listen to a woman wonder whether she should divorce a man who loves her unconditionally but doesn’t communicate well, she leaves the therapist’s office and a man walks in whose wife is physically and verbally abusive, butContinue reading “Perspective”
Love Your Divorce 