Category Archives: Divorce

No Major Decisions by Text

The digital age of divorce has its benefits.  My clients and I can keep in touch with each other 24/7 via text and email. We used to reserve most of our communications for business hours, and only those hours when I was not in court or meeting with someone else. They all had my homeContinueContinue reading “No Major Decisions by Text”

Are Post-Nuptial Agreements a Good Idea For You?

We have all heard of the fear and loathing associated with Pre- Nuptial, or pre-marital, agreements.  Accusations by the greedy and suspicious families of the newly-engaged can lead the love-struck straight to lawyers’ offices.  Innocence dashed on the rocks of such concepts as “gold digger,” “mercenary,” and worse.  Long before anyone has a chance toContinueContinue reading “Are Post-Nuptial Agreements a Good Idea For You?”

Ease your way into things..

A man once had a cat that he loved very much.  When he went away for a six-month work assignment, he left the cat in the care of his brother, promising to call every week and check on the status of his beloved cat.All went well, until one week when the man called and askedContinueContinue reading “Ease your way into things..”

Keep your eyes on the road ahead..

What divorce does (and does not) solveWell, the truth is, it only solves a few specific things.  Divorce does not make you more (or less) organized, motivated, sober (or carefree), responsible or irresponsible.  It might, for a while, increase or alleviate a few of those traits.  For example, if you are an ordinarily organized andContinueContinue reading “Keep your eyes on the road ahead..”

How Cooperation Can Lead to Champagne..

If you had to have a champagne toast with just one person at the end of your divorce, who would it be?My opinion is that if you have done it right, that person would be your ex-spouse.  Picture two glass flutes, filled 2/3s of the way up with golden hued liquid, bubbles rising to theContinueContinue reading “How Cooperation Can Lead to Champagne..”

Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…

What is the value of keeping your in-laws in a divorce? I recently heard a woman make an argument that she should be entitled to increased alimony because she lives closer to her in-laws than to her own parents.   Many states use a rubric of factors to determine alimony. Factors may include  length of theContinueContinue reading “Don’t underestimate the value of your in-laws…”

In olden days, times were hard..

In olden days times were hard. Our grandparents (or their grandparents) left countries where they were persecuted (or hungry, or poor, or worse). They gathered the belongings they could, clutched their children close to them, and climbed onto giant ocean liners to travel in extreme conditions for months and arrive in a new country whereContinueContinue reading “In olden days, times were hard..”

Staying Together for the Children

“Staying together for the children,” my personal pet peeve. If you want to benefit your children – show them how one gets divorced with grace, dignity, generosity, and resilience. The WAY people handle their divorces is what will influence their families for generations. When you have an opportunity, I recommend the Childrens’ Bill of Rights,ContinueContinue reading “Staying Together for the Children”

Perspective

Perspective. I recently met with a group of marital and family therapists.  Perspective is their job, right?  They  listen to a woman wonder whether she should divorce a man who loves her unconditionally but doesn’t communicate well, she leaves the therapist’s  office and a man walks in whose wife is physically and verbally abusive, butContinueContinue reading “Perspective”