Being the Best You In a Divorce

I met a policeman last week.  He has been divorced 8 years and his youngest child just turned 18 after graduating high school.  His child support orders are through, over! He spent a little time discussing the divorce process with me.  He and his wife each had their own lawyers, and they each spent quiteContinue reading “Being the Best You In a Divorce”

The Importance of the Decision to Divorce

“Thanks Mom & Dad – You Just Ruined My Life.” Would you rather: hear that sentence and know it is false? Or never hear that sentence, yet know it is true? That is a choice parents face all the time. Whether it comes to allowing kids to attend certain parties or concerts, paying more forContinue reading “The Importance of the Decision to Divorce”

The Desert Island Theory

Remember the old game, “If you were stranded on a desert island and could only bring one album* what would it be?” (* or DVD, or CD, or book, or movie, or friend…) The first question, of course, is if you were stranded on a desert island, how did you have time to pack thatContinue reading “The Desert Island Theory”

It’s always wise to offer kindness

I am inspired by one of the couples I am divorcing in July.  This is what they have:  debts, a looming foreclosure, potential bankruptcy, 1 working vehicle (unregistered), 3 surviving parents (none of whom are helpful), one angry sister-in-law, 2 known affairs, raging alcoholism, and two young children. Only one spouse is capable of earning aContinue reading “It’s always wise to offer kindness”

I Bit Off More Than I Could Chew

I bit off more than I could chew. My kids’ school and their extra-curricular activities, my book group, speaking opportunities and volunteer work, my husband’s travel schedule, social lives for all of us, and – oh, yeah, my job — each grew bigger than I was prepared to handle all at once. The next thingContinue reading “I Bit Off More Than I Could Chew”