Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?

Kelsey Grammer and Camille Grammer have been divorced for more than 3 months.  Kelsey is remarried, Camille is reportedly filming new episodes on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills while considering another spot on CNN.  Their two minor children together, ages 6 and 9, have been settled into their new lives.  Each child reportedly has two full-time nannies.

Apparently, Camille does not want her children having free and liberal visitation with their dad and his younger wife.  Or – some say – Kelsey does not want to have to pay child support.  Apparently, they divorced quickly in February, so that Kelsey could marry his newest wife, and left the difficult questions (asset division and custody) for a later date.  Now. 

What would a judge need to see in this file in order to assign one parent sole custody?  The common practice in most states is for children to have primary physical custody with one parent (in this case – so far – their mother), and both parents to have joint legal custody over the up-bringing decisions and finances of the children.  The non-custodial parent (in this case the father) would then have reasonable rights of visitation: frequently nights, weekends, and an occasional vacation. This general arrangement is presumed unless one parent or another can be proven to be an inappropriate parent.

Inappropriate parent, of course, is a relative term.  (Pardon the pun.)

Rumors and citations abound all over the internet – how many times has Kelsey been arrested for drunk driving, cocaine possession, violating probation? How often has he gone to rehab? With 5 marriages, public engagements and health scares, he may have spent more time in the tabloids than out of them.

While rumors following Camille (former Playboy model, drug binges) are less pervasive, they nonetheless paint a picture of a woman with questionable ethics, loyalties and motives.

Which one of these people would you want to raise your children?

Luckily, neither of them gets to raise any children but their own. A judge will mostly look for evidence that a parent puts the child in danger. Is the parent drunk or high while with the kids? Does the parent bring the kids to unsafe places like bars, fights or drug deals? Are the children left unattended while the parent has sex?

Are either of the parents, or their partners, convicted sex offenders?

If the answer to all of these questions is no, and if the children have no strong and valid desire to avoid one parent, then a judge will probably not terminate anyone’s parental rights.  Custody fights usually resolve close to what the truth already was – an uneasy balance between both parents’ rights.

What We Love:  First – that your children (and my children) are not being raised by Kelsey and Camille Grammer. Second – parents do not have to be perfect in order to be the right parents for their own children; they just have to keep their children safe from harm.

Published by Sharon Oberst DeFala

Sharon Oberst DeFala has practiced low-impact safe divorce since 1992.

One thought on “Kelsey, Camille, cocaine and custody: what is a judge to do?

  1. Neither of them ARE raising their children, that’s what’s so sad and yet so ridiculous about this entire situation.

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