One of the reasons people are often upset with the divorce process is because they think it will change the spouse's behavior. It does not. It frequently just exacerbates already frustrating situations. The questions one should be asking oneself when contemplating a divorce are not, "Am I happy in this marriage?" The questions need toContinue reading "DECIDING WHETHER TO DIVORCE (OR NOT)"
Simple Tools: The Financial Affidavit
Why, When and How to use your Finanical Affidavit. The most important tool in your divorce is frequently the most over-looked, and avoided. Even its name is off-putting; but it is the key to understanding all of the other issues which arise. It is called (drumroll, please), "The Financial Affidavit" (yawn). Frankly, most people shouldContinue reading "Simple Tools: The Financial Affidavit"
My YouTube Debut
I want to introduce you to a great divorce video series and website called "Single Process, the process of going from a we to a me." https://www.singleprocess.me/ Barbara Hazelton and Jo Briggs are empowering women through their own investigation into all of the questions surrounding divorce: legal, finanical, personal, parenting, dating, and many more. TheyContinue reading "My YouTube Debut"
10 Reasons to be Grateful you are Divorced this Holiday Season
While we look around at all of the people rushing to spend this holiday with loved ones, those families who are in transition – going through divorces or separations right now, or living with the decisions to do or not to do either of those things - might feel a little less grateful for theirContinue reading "10 Reasons to be Grateful you are Divorced this Holiday Season"
A Hidden Treasure Chest
Photo by Suzy Hazelwood on Pexels.com I represent a wife whose husband is in business with his brother. The wife believes that there is a lot of cash exchanged in the husband's business. Even if she is correct that there is a substantial amount of cash exchanged in the husband's business, there is still notContinue reading "A Hidden Treasure Chest"
The Fault with Fault
https://pixabay.com/photos/nature-forest-trees-light-sun-fog-3151869/ Image by Johannes Plenio from Pixabay I sat across from a very happy man. He is recently separated from his wife of 25 years. His children, through with their education, are ready for the next phase of their lives and so was he. I had known my friend for more than 20 years andContinue reading "The Fault with Fault"
The Stories we Tell Ourselves
https://pixabay.com/photos/book-pitched-book-pages-paper-1738609/ Image by Alexas_Fotos from Pixabay World War 2 medic Henry Beecher had a limited amount of morphine in his bag. He walked across a battlefield strewn with wounded soldiers, some rolling around or crying out in pain; others lying still, quietly bleeding into the earth. Trying to figure out which ones needed his limitedContinue reading "The Stories we Tell Ourselves"
The Beauty of Compassion
https://pixabay.com/photos/clasped-hands-comfort-hands-people-541849/ Image by skeeze from Pixabay The first time I ever saw "Lana" she was already on the witness stand as I walked into the court room. I was a new attorney, still in my 20s. I had never seen a divorce before. I didn't even really know anyone who had been divorced. Most ofContinue reading "The Beauty of Compassion"
Necessary Preparations
Photo by Анна Рыжкова on Pexels.com When I first met "Rayna" she was scared to ask her husband for a divorce. He pays all the bills, he knows how to fix everything in the house. He doesn't like surprises. They had discussed divorce from time to time over the years, and he had made itContinue reading "Necessary Preparations"
Living with My ex-Husband, Once a Year
Photo by Asad Photo Maldives on Pexels.com Q: My friend has a timeshare with her husband 14 days every 2 years. They are filing for a divorce. They've separated and he lives with his new girl in a different state now. My friend made reservations for 6 days at their timeshare and asked me &Continue reading "Living with My ex-Husband, Once a Year"
Love Your Divorce 