While we look around at all of the people rushing to spend this holiday with loved ones, those families who are in transition – going through divorces or separations right now, or living with the decisions to do or not to do either of those things – might feel a little less grateful for theirContinueContinue reading “10 Reasons to be Grateful you are Divorced this Holiday Season”
Category Archives: Divorce Insight
The Fault with Fault
https://pixabay.com/photos/nature-forest-trees-light-sun-fog-3151869/ Image by Johannes Plenio from Pixabay I sat across from a very happy man. He is recently separated from his wife of 25 years. His children, through with their education, are ready for the next phase of their lives and so was he. I had known my friend for more than 20 years andContinueContinue reading “The Fault with Fault”
The Stories we Tell Ourselves
https://pixabay.com/photos/book-pitched-book-pages-paper-1738609/ Image by Alexas_Fotos from Pixabay World War 2 medic Henry Beecher had a limited amount of morphine in his bag. He walked across a battlefield strewn with wounded soldiers, some rolling around or crying out in pain; others lying still, quietly bleeding into the earth. Trying to figure out which ones needed his limitedContinueContinue reading “The Stories we Tell Ourselves”
The Beauty of Compassion
https://pixabay.com/photos/clasped-hands-comfort-hands-people-541849/ Image by skeeze from Pixabay The first time I ever saw “Lana” she was already on the witness stand as I walked into the court room. I was a new attorney, still in my 20s. I had never seen a divorce before. I didn’t even really know anyone who had been divorced. Most ofContinueContinue reading “The Beauty of Compassion”
Necessary Preparations
Photo by Анна Рыжкова on Pexels.com When I first met “Rayna” she was scared to ask her husband for a divorce. He pays all the bills, he knows how to fix everything in the house. He doesn’t like surprises. They had discussed divorce from time to time over the years, and he had made itContinueContinue reading “Necessary Preparations”
Living with My ex-Husband, Once a Year
Photo by Asad Photo Maldives on Pexels.com Q: My friend has a timeshare with her husband 14 days every 2 years. They are filing for a divorce. They’ve separated and he lives with his new girl in a different state now. My friend made reservations for 6 days at their timeshare and asked me &ContinueContinue reading “Living with My ex-Husband, Once a Year”
A Husband Upside-down? Maybe backwards?
Photo by Anna Urlapova on Pexels.com “When you meet my husband, you won’t believe the things I have told you about him.” At my law firm, we hear this so frequently from women in emotionally abusive relationships. They tell us that their husbands belittle, demean, threaten, and frighten them, and yet, to the outside world,ContinueContinue reading “A Husband Upside-down? Maybe backwards?”
Divorce is Pretty Popular?
Photo by Maria Lindsey Multimedia Creator on Pexels.com https://www.margemedia.com/?ref=pexels Does this happen to you, too? People talk to me about their divorces all the time. I don’t just mean my clients. I mean the lady next to me waiting for our dry cleaning, my eye doctor, a mom whose son plays baseball with my son,ContinueContinue reading “Divorce is Pretty Popular?”
Thankfully, Plan C
Her beautiful blue eyes fill up slowly, from the bottom to the top. Then the tears spill over and she starts listing for me all of the clues she has ignored for the past several months. My heart just breaks for her as she unspools, in the clarity of hindsight, all of the unbidden questionsContinueContinue reading “Thankfully, Plan C”
Divorce Equals Division
Photo by Kaboompics .com on Pexels.com Did you ever notice how the words “Divorce” and “divide” both start with the same three letters, the same root? Divorce can be seen as a time to “divvy-up” assets, debts, photo albums, relatives, and even friends. You can almost picture a black jack dealer with a green eye-shadeContinueContinue reading “Divorce Equals Division”
Love Your Divorce 