I want to introduce you to a great divorce video series and website called “Single Process, the process of going from a we to a me.” https://www.singleprocess.me/ Barbara Hazelton and Jo Briggs are empowering women through their own investigation into all of the questions surrounding divorce: legal, finanical, personal, parenting, dating, and many more. TheyContinue reading “My YouTube Debut”
Author Archives: Sharon Oberst DeFala
10 Reasons to be Grateful you are Divorced this Holiday Season
While we look around at all of the people rushing to spend this holiday with loved ones, those families who are in transition – going through divorces or separations right now, or living with the decisions to do or not to do either of those things – might feel a little less grateful for theirContinue reading “10 Reasons to be Grateful you are Divorced this Holiday Season”
A Hidden Treasure Chest
I represent a wife whose husband is in business with his brother. The wife believes that there is a lot of cash exchanged in the husband’s business. Even if she is correct that there is a substantial amount of cash exchanged in the husband’s business, there is still not a lot of money in thatContinue reading “A Hidden Treasure Chest”
The Fault with Fault
I sat across from a very happy man. He is recently separated from his wife of 25 years. His children, through with their education, are ready for the next phase of their lives and so was he. I had known my friend for more than 20 years and this was the happiest I had everContinue reading “The Fault with Fault”
The Stories we Tell Ourselves
World War 2 medic Henry Beecher had a limited amount of morphine in his bag. He walked across a battlefield strewn with wounded soldiers, some rolling around or crying out in pain; others lying still, quietly bleeding into the earth. Trying to figure out which ones needed his limited supply most, he would walk upContinue reading “The Stories we Tell Ourselves”
The Beauty of Compassion
The first time I ever saw “Lana” she was already on the witness stand as I walked into the court room. I was a new attorney, still in my 20s. I had never seen a divorce before. I didn’t even really know anyone who had been divorced. Most of the work I had done untilContinue reading “The Beauty of Compassion”
Necessary Preparations
When I first met “Rayna” she was scared to ask her husband for a divorce. He pays all the bills, he knows how to fix everything in the house. He doesn’t like surprises. They had discussed divorce from time to time over the years, and he had made it clear that he was worried forContinue reading “Necessary Preparations”
Living with My ex-Husband, Once a Year
Q: My friend has a timeshare with her husband 14 days every 2 years. They are filing for a divorce. They’ve separated and he lives with his new girl in a different state now. My friend made reservations for 6 days at their timeshare and asked me & my man if we would like toContinue reading “Living with My ex-Husband, Once a Year”
A Husband Upside-down? Maybe backwards?
“When you meet my husband, you won’t believe the things I have told you about him.” At my law firm, we hear this so frequently from women in emotionally abusive relationships. They tell us that their husbands belittle, demean, threaten, and frighten them, and yet, to the outside world, the men are charming, funny, considerateContinue reading “A Husband Upside-down? Maybe backwards?”
Divorce is Pretty Popular?
Does this happen to you, too? People talk to me about their divorces all the time. I don’t just mean my clients. I mean the lady next to me waiting for our dry cleaning, my eye doctor, a mom whose son plays baseball with my son, the cop directing traffic at the corner, the womanContinue reading “Divorce is Pretty Popular?”
Love Your Divorce 